"Tonight I messed up... I was in the middle of eating my dinner when Tommy asked for a 3rd helping of ice-cream. I told him it had finished, that he could have some tomorrow, and he ran back into the kitchen screaming.
Tommy has developed a scream that is incredibly loud, high pitched, and lasts as long as he can exhale. It goes right through your head.
He did this 3 or 4 times, running back out to ask for more, then running off screaming uncontrollably every time I didn't give in. Now at this stage you might call this a tantrum, however with Tommy they often lead to meltdowns, and tonight was no exception.
Soon there were chairs overturned, the table slammed, spitting, and somehow screaming louder. I snapped, grabbed him from running off and shouted at him. I can't remember what but probably along the lines of "stop it, calm down!" Ask anyone who's able to tell you what a meltdown feels like, and being shouted at to 'calm down' is probably one of the least helpful things you can do.
It escalated even more as he ran around screaming causing more chaos. Angry at him (and probably more angry at myself) I held him still and shouted again. And surprise surprise it didn't make him stop, only managing to make me feel even worse about how I was handling it.
About 20 minutes after it first started, and a lot of screaming and tears, he started to calm down. He proceeded to spend the next half hour in my arms being carried around the kitchen so he could look into every cupboard, whilst I named every single item in there, over and over. When there was a word that he liked he pulled me close so I could whisper it into his ear.
And just like that the meltdown was over. We spelt some time looking at books, I cuddled him and said sorry, and then he went off to bed.
Sharing our stories with you lovely people I receive a lot of comments about what a great dad I am, and it always means a lot to receive them. I like to think I'm a good dad, but it's also true that tonight I fucked up. I know that shouting at Tommy when he's in that state is probably the worst thing I can do, but I still did it. *Continues in the comments....
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"MOISTURISER- applying moisturiser to the skin hydrates skin as well as provides sensory input (Tactile Input) which benefits people with Autism and or Sensory Processing Disorder.
Some people seek touch, enjoy affection, certain textures and temperatures. My autistic husband seeks tactile input, he very frequently cracks his wrists, touches walls he passes by, strokes his arms, loves the sensation of a shower, demands affection and massage. He has hypo sensitive tactile senses, his nervous system requires additional amounts of tactile input for his brain to register it as well as feel good and function better.
Jayden on the other hand has hypersensitive tactile senses and avoids certain textures, he is very fussy with his socks and clothing. It creates discomfort, anxiety and distraction. Jayden often is resistant to human contact, resistant to affection. Previously it was a nightmare to wash and groom his hair. He can become angry and aggressive at times. He also often doesn’t want to touch food due to the texture and sensation on his skin. He would avoid eating or demand someone to feed him.
What i have been doing to help manage Jaydens tactile (touch) hypersensitivity is provide regular exposure to massage, i started off just using my hands without cream or oil. Then I gradually progressed to using massage oils and cream. I ensure i warm my hands and cream first before applying them to his body. Now Jayden enjoys massage and asks for one. When he asks me to stop i do. Regular exposure in small doses has helped Jayden become desensitised gradually over time.
Disclaimer- please see your Doctor and Occupational Therapist before commencing any new therapy and please perform at your own risk.
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Some of my favorite words by one of my philosophical heroes, John Dewey, perfectly describe the way I feel about the outcome of the daily struggles we face and overcome. — “Life itself consists of phases in which the organism falls out of step with the march of surrounding things and then recovers unison with it.. in
a growing life, the recovery is never a mere return to a prior state, for it is enriched by the state of disparity and resistance through which it has successfully passed.” Dewey speaks to my soul with his literature. It is because of him that I make it a point to remember that even on our hardest days, we are becoming enriched and refined by the experience, and for that I am grateful. @itskirenia
If you’re curious about the Roadmap, just check out our testimonial from Michelle Lepitre, MSE, BCBA! A little about Michelle: Michelle is a consultant for the Arkansas Autism Waiver Program, who runs a team that works one-on-one in the home of children with Autism. She’s an active follower and very familiar with my free Resource Library and Roadmap to ABA Parent Training. I connected with her through webchat after sending a survey for feedback and truly appreciated what she had to say. I’ve summed up her testimonial as blog post for you (link in bio). #PBehave