I haven’t been feeling a lot of this, lately. I’ve not been well.
I’m in the thick of my first major depressive season in two years. I even considered admitting myself to the hospital this week. It doesn’t feel okay but you know what, THAT is okay.
I’m depressed but I haven’t given up yet.
Please understand, depression does not mean SADNESS. Depression comes with an emptiness that is unexplainable...
It’s important to me, during these dark times, to find light anywhere I can. Call me a dork, I can assure you I don’t care, but Harry Potter brings me comfort.🤓⚡️
Maybe it’s the magic. Maybe it’s the way I feel I’m escaping to another world. But no matter what it is, it makes my heart feel a little less cold.
In case you are unfamiliar, lumos is a spell in Harry Potter that casts light 💫
Some self care I like to practice is creating something, being crafty. Today for my #depressionselfcare I made this box. ✨
(Well, I bought the box and painted it, obviously.)
I am going to write down things on a piece of paper to keep in this box that bring ✨LIGHT✨into my life, that make me happy so I can open and read them during times of darkness.
How do you like to practice self care when you are down? Share your ideas/ tips in the comments to help others!💞👇🏽
You know you’re on to something when after this blog emailed I received comments like “I so needed this article right now...what resonated with me is not attaching negative labels to ourselves.” Maybe it’s for you too! @suzycarroll #benicetoyourself#mindset#selflove
I've been having some vegan fails lately. I am a mother who is at the moment tandem nursing and I've been doing high intensity workouts. I wasn't meeting my protein needs and then would fold and eat some meat. I woke up one morning and thought about if eating a plant based diet was something I wanted to keep up with. My heart and soul said yes. So I've been really focusing on getting enough protein. As a nursing momma who is working out I need a sh*t ton.•
Last night we made wraps that actually turned out to be taco/tostadas. It was good and crunchy, I fulfilled my protein and I felt good. I never wanted to be someone who pays close attention the numbers of grams, but being vegan is important to me. So now until I get this all figured out, I'll be counting my protein intake.•
If any of you have tips on how to get a lot of protein from plant based diets, I'm all ears, or eyes.• #journeytovegan#journeytosoul#getenoughprotein#plantbased#animalsarefriendsnotfood#vegansofinstagram#itsajourney#benicetoyourself#loveyourself#loveoneanotheralways#loaa_
Feeling proud of being a PERFECTIONIST?? Do you know that is the LOWEST STANDARD you can have in life --> it's NOT ACHIEVABLE!!!! You will CRUSH under that NEED TO CONTROL EVERYTHING!!! ...or maybe you ALREADY HAVE!!!! Everything is GREAT UNTIL things don't go as planned -->when a thing called LIFE occurs !!!!! Welcome anxiety, frustration, anger and overwhelm :) !!! ... Who do you have to prove to?? Who did you have to prove to in order to get love/approval?? Look at the pearson you RESENT and you will have a clue as to who and what is driving that inner urge to CONTROL everything... ...and let it GO!! It doesn't really matter 😉 It's OK to have fun, just be you perfectly- imperfect, make mistakes and learn from them... Children don't beat themselfs up when they are learning to walk, they just try again --> and have fun in that proces 😉😎
#havefun#itdoesn 'treallymatter #loveyourself#benicetoyourself#memyself &i #nostress#perfectlyimperfect
Sunday I had SOOO much fun doing this workout with Cody, I seriously think I laughed half of the time!!! 😜😂 I'm so grateful that Cody decided to workout with me & for all the support he always gives me 😘
I hope this gives you a good laugh!!! 🌟 Make sure to turn on the volume to hear all my craziness lol 🌟
Is there sibling rivalry in your house?
If there is, the good news is, the best solution is to let the kids work it out themselves!
When you do hear a disagreement between your kids, ignore it—busy yourself elsewhere. Give them a chance to work it out on their own.
If your kids clearly can’t reach an agreement, or if the fight escalates, you might have to step in. Listen to each child, encouraging “I feel” statements as they tell their story. Then, without placing blame or taking sides, ask them to come up with some solutions. If no one is able to come up with a workable resolution, suggest a few yourself, and help them reach an agreement.
How do you deal with sibling rivalry at home?
It’s funny init, when you think back to your childhood and remember those big life lessons you were taught - a lot of it was all about how you should have good manners and you should talk to other people with politeness and respect. And abso-feckin-lutely. Dead right. The rents had it spot on. But there was never any mention of how you should speak to yourself 👉🏻 the most important voice of all. So if you happen to have skipped that life lesson in your youth, I’ll give you a crash course recap 👉🏻 the way you speak to yourself matters THE MOST. Truth. So whatever self-deprecating talk you decide to gift yourself with today, just check in with yourself for a second, and ask yourself if you’d talk to your best mate that way. If you wouldn’t, then there’s no place for that kinda talk in your head any longer. YOU are your bestest mate on the planet, through thick and thin she’s with you through it all, so I think we’re due to treat her that way ay ♥️ #theimperfectlife#imperfectionista#benicetoyourself
A trigger is something that elicits a strong emotional response. Some people call it “pushing your buttons.” This can be anything and you never know when you say something if it is a trigger for someone else.
Some triggers are common and expected. You see “trigger warning” as the prelude to an article about infant death, miscarriage, abuse, or rape. Other triggers are much less “acute” and can be related to money, love, relationships, and health. Whenever you read or hear something and you immediately feel a strong sense of anger, sadness, grief, guilt, or shame you’ve found a trigger. And every trigger reveals a part of yourself that needs healing.
First, don’t take offense if someone reacts disproportionately upset about something that seems pretty innocent. People can get very angry when you challenge their beliefs. This has nothing to do with you. It is their own hurt coming to the surface. Witness the outburst with love. You’ve uncovered a part of them that is unhealed and we all have parts that need healing.
Second, be particularly compassionate with yourself. When you feel this explosive need to defend yourself or an idea, try to consider WHY you feel so strongly. What beliefs are you clinging to that are making you feel not good enough? Underneath all that emotion, is a scared child that doesn’t feel worthy. Be as nice to your inner child as you would be to your own child.
Lastly, “Blame is one of the surest ways to stay in a problem.” #LouiseHay When you blame someone or something else for your problem, you’re giving away your power. You have the power to change your life by changing your thoughts. Recognizing this and understanding your part in the story is the first step towards healing.
I am thankful for my triggers. They show me the areas that I need to heal. It’s not comfortable but I’m learning to allow myself to exist with the discomfort. As with all things, it takes practice.
"Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it." --Martin Luther King Jr.
Today is more than just a day off. Today is a day of service, a day of loving and taking care of each other. Let us celebrate Dr. King's legacy by doing for others. #mlk
Self-care isn’t always lush bubble baths and $20 face masks. Sometimes it’s going to bed by 9pm and letting go of a bad friend. It’s forgiving yourself for not meeting your impossible standards and understanding you’re worth it.
#nextlevelliving You can’t love everyone...and not everyone’s gonna love you...You could be the ripest peach and maybe they just don’t eat peaches...listen to energy it does not lie... #legacy#benicetoyourself @glowmaven #glow
💞IT’S OUR 6 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!🏳️🌈
Swipe ⬅️to see 6 years of anniversary pictures!
We’ve been through a lot. We’ve been discriminated against. We’ve been judged and been treated poorly. We’ve both battled serious mental illness. But amazingly, being together has been nothing but pure love and happiness. You make this world seem okay. ✨
I wanted to say a little something about deserving love and needing to love yourself before others love you. So please, stay with me through this story...it’s powerful.
Before we started dating, we were close friends. When we started dating, we were long distance and I was bound to my bed. I didn’t leave it (except to use the restroom) for about 4 months. I was too depressed, I wanted to die. We had never met in person at this point-
We met in person 2 months into dating after a year and a half of friendship.
I wasn’t eating, I was self harming daily, I was sleeping about 18-22 hours a day (I would wake up only to skype with him and then fall back asleep) I had no job, no prospects, no plan, and no hope for my life.
And I can assure you, I didn’t love myself.
Isaiah saw something in me.
He believed in me even though I didn’t believe in me.
He had no doubts that my current situation was not my final destination.
He showed me what pure, honest love is.
That faith in me helped me get better. There’s something very healing about feeling understood. He sat with me in my darkness and didn’t make me feel guilty for it. He loved me exactly as I was. But he knew I would flourish some day.
That is love.
I’ve heard a lot of people say, “others can’t love you if you don’t love yourself”
...while I respect your opinion, I disagree.
You don’t have to earn love.
You don’t have to have it all together to be loved.
You don’t have to be at a certain place in your self love journey to experience love.
You are enough.
Personally, I think finding someone that believes that too is worth the wait.
Happy 6 year anniversary to my best friend, my husband, my person, my crush, and the biggest light in my life.
I love you Isaiah. 💜
Having a tough time? This flower is for you. When I have tired, emotional days I stop everything and go outside to sit in the garden and reset my vibration. Self-care can be a difficult practice when you have others to take care of and a never-ending list of things to do. But it is a moment by moment awareness and choice. Noticing your body, your emotions, your thoughts and taking a moment to listen to what they are telling you. Nothing is so important that you need to sacrifice your own wellbeing for it. Only you can know what you really need in any given moment. Sometimes that means saying no even when you want to say yes. Trusting that what's best for you in this moment can ultimately be the best for everyone. Take good care of yourselves, beautiful people. Being your loved-up self is a gift to everyone. #benicetoyourself#selflove#soulcare
✨IT’S TIME TO TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOU✨
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I am so grateful to be a brand ambassador for such an incredible company like @selflovesupply and they are really spreading some love with this giveaway 😍😍😍
The WINNER will receive:
💞a $50 gift card to Self Love Supply’s online store
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Self Love Supply’s online store has so many incredible self care gifts to choose from. Pictured are just some of my personal favorites ☺️
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🌸comment below ONE affirmation you will be saying to yourself this year!
🌸tag a friend who deserves to TREAT THEMSELVES! 💅🏽
You may tag as many friends as you’d like in separate comments for a better chance to win!
The winner will be chosen at random at 10am EST this #wellnesswednesday and will be announced on my story 🎉
This contest is open to all those in North America and is not sponsored by or affiliated with instagram.
BEST OF LUCK 😘